One of the things I have always valued is the input of women when it comes to us being better men.
It’s why I have ladies on the podcast to speak to me on various subjects.
Which is great because it means I can ask them important questions like I did with a cohort of ladies on Twitter last week with this question:
What strengths, attributes, characteristics and virtues do you want to see your man cultivating so you can really relax into his mature masculine energy?
In this edition of the newsletter I am going to delve into their answers along with how you can cultivate these traits.
By the way the most attractive trait of all is cultivating these traits of your own volition – NOT because you want sexy time – okay?
Let’s go:
Leadership:
Leadership is the ability to inspire and guide others towards a common goal. To develop leadership skills, it is important to understand your own values and beliefs, and be able to communicate them effectively to others. Seek out opportunities to lead, such as volunteering in your community, and practice active listening, empathy, and emotional intelligence.
Patience:
Patience is a key ingredient for success in life. It is the ability to endure difficult situations without becoming frustrated or upset. To develop patience, it is important to take a deep breath and remain calm when faced with challenges. Try to focus on the bigger picture and practice mindfulness and meditation to stay calm in the moment.
Kindness:
Kindness is a simple yet powerful trait that can have a profound impact on those around you. To be kind, it is important to listen actively, be empathetic, and show genuine concern for others. Practice small acts of kindness every day, like holding the door open for someone or complimenting someone on their achievements.
Discipline:
Discipline is the ability to control your actions and emotions, even in challenging situations. To develop discipline, it is important to set clear and achievable goals, prioritize your tasks, and avoid distractions. Start by setting small goals for yourself and gradually build up your discipline over time.
Empathy:
Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. To develop empathy, it is important to practice active listening and put yourself in other people's shoes. Try to understand different perspectives and treat others with kindness and respect.
Communication:
Effective communication is a crucial aspect of personal and professional success. To develop good communication skills, it is important to be clear, concise, and respectful in your interactions with others. Practice active listening and avoid using aggressive or passive communication styles.
Listening:
Listening is a key aspect of effective communication. To be a good listener, it is important to focus on the person speaking, ask clarifying questions, and avoid distractions. Practice active listening in your daily interactions and seek out opportunities to learn from others.
Critical thinking:
Critical thinking is the ability to analyse information and make well-informed decisions. To develop critical thinking skills, it is important to question assumptions, consider multiple perspectives, and seek out information from a variety of sources.
High value morals:
Having a strong set of personal values and morals is essential for a fulfilling life. To develop strong morals, it is important to understand your own beliefs, stay true to your values, and treat others with kindness and respect.
A sense of humour:
Having a sense of humour can make life more enjoyable and help you connect with others. To develop a sense of humour, it is important to see the humour in everyday situations and be open to different types of humour. Don't be afraid to laugh at yourself and enjoy the lighter side of life.
Sense of adventure:
Having a sense of adventure can make life more exciting and help you step outside of your comfort zone. To develop a sense of adventure, try new activities, take risks, and seek out new experiences.
Protective:
Being protective of those you care about is a noble trait that can bring comfort and security to those around you. To be a protective presence, it is important to be aware of your surroundings, be prepared for emergencies, and be willing to take action when necessary.
Keep promises:
Keeping your promises is a crucial aspect of building trust and maintaining relationships. To be a trustworthy and dependable person, it is important to be honest, make commitments carefully, and follow through on your promises.
Respectful:
Respect is a fundamental aspect of healthy relationships and a fulfilling life. To be respectful, it is important to treat others with kindness and understanding, avoid being judgmental, and communicate in a non-violent manner.
Calm:
Being calm in the face of adversity is a valuable trait that can help you handle difficult situations effectively. To stay calm, it is important to practice deep breathing, maintain a positive attitude, and focus on the present moment.
Be healthy:
Good health is essential for a fulfilling life. To maintain good health, it is important to exercise regularly, eat a balanced diet, and get enough sleep. Seek out preventative care and seek medical attention when necessary.
Physically Strong:
Physical strength is an important aspect of overall health and well-being. To develop physical strength, it is important to exercise regularly, focus on a balanced diet, and challenge yourself with new physical activities. Start small and gradually build up your strength over time.
Striving for Better:
Striving for continuous improvement is a crucial aspect of personal growth and success. To strive for better, it is important to set clear goals, seek out opportunities to learn and grow, and maintain a positive attitude. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people, and never be afraid to take risks.
Desire:
Having a strong desire to achieve your goals is essential for success. To develop a strong desire, it is important to understand your passions and what motivates you. Surround yourself with people who support your goals, and never give up on what you believe in.
Wisdom:
Wisdom is the ability to make good decisions based on experience and understanding. To develop wisdom, it is important to seek out new experiences, learn from your mistakes, and seek advice from those with more experience. Read books, attend workshops, and seek out mentorship opportunities to gain a deeper understanding of the world.
Trustworthy:
Being trustworthy is a crucial aspect of building strong relationships and earning the respect of others. To be trustworthy, it is important to be honest, make commitments carefully, and follow through on your promises. Seek out opportunities to demonstrate your trustworthiness, and always be true to your word.
Dependable:
Being dependable is a valuable trait that can help you build trust and maintain relationships. To be dependable, it is important to be reliable, keep your commitments, and follow through on your promises. Seek out opportunities to demonstrate your dependability, and always be true to your word.
Gents that is it!!
There is a ton of value in what the ladies told me – not least because most of these traits are ones you can develop for yourself in being a better man anyway.
A nice side effect of them is that they are going to draw you closer to your wife or partner in the process which as I said at the top is not the end goal.
Focus on one quality at a time, and gradually build on your progress over time. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people, and never be afraid to take risks and strive for better.
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https://twitter.com/guildofdads/status/1620696699827273729?s=20&t=Ky6hc9-BFXzArmbj-8IXWg
Have a great Friday!!
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